XXX- See. I am an Indian middle class guy. I have grown up on the idea of having a “PURE” girl as my wife. Although i was craving physical intimacy with my to be partner, however if you had gone out with me on this trip and ended up being physically close to me, my mind would have raised a thousand questions on your chastity.
XXX - If you had agreed to go out with me and we got physically close even before we entered the wedlock, it would have impacted my decision to get married to you.
IDK may be God saved X from this situation of being used in the name of litmus test and then being discarded in the name of purity by a guy who isn’t ashamed of himself for being capable of conducting such litmus tests on another human.
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I would not give you an answer but a real life scenario… consider this a possibility as well…
X- Do you remember how you used to push me for planning an outstation trip together to Jaipur before we were even married ? I always could sense what you had in mind. So always dodged you saying my parents won’t agree, I can’t take extended leaves as after marriage I would have to take an extended one month leave etc etc.
X- ( Speechless, angry and somewhat hurt at the same time) Couldn’t elicit any reaction 🙁
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X- Okay!! I am confused now. Can you explain what was on your mind?
X- What?
XXX - Absolutely!! I so wanted to go out together and be close with you. I craved that soooooo much. But you know what?
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X ( Aghast at this revelation)- But we were engaged and you said you loved me. You were the one who were after my life for this trip. How would that make me and me alone an impure person?
I don’t know how common this mentality is among men. But I feel Indian men are dwindling between attempting to be modern yet are old fashioned and rigidly conventional at core.
XXX- Yeah man!! Those were the days. It felt like we were dating and not courting for marriage.
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X- Do you remember our courtship? How we used to meet every Saturday, me talking an off from work and you sneaking out of home for our dates?
My mind would have asked me that if you could have done it with me before marriage, you might have done it with others too and you might not be a pure girl that I want as my life partner.
A husband and a wife having a candid conversation after 5 years into the marriage. Lets call the wife X and the husband XXX
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
You know this guy and your situation better. Act carefully and do not give in to any demands that doesn’t feel right to you. Wishing you a very happy married life ahead :)
XXX ( Kissing her forehead)- Yeah I know. But that sweetheart was my litmus test for you and I am glad you passed the test with flying colours. I am almost sure that if you had slept with me before marriage, I would’ve canceled the wedding making up some reason . It was extremely important for me to have a wife with good character.
